My daughter and I always discuss the Turning Point lessons and this week was a little weird and led us into the discussions on picking good friends. I am not 100% sure how we got on this topic from the Turning Point discussion but it was enlightening none the less.
Why People Leave
They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us; but they went out that they might be made manifest, that none of them were of us.
Unbelief is the root of apostasy.
Picking Good Friends:
Picking good friends I dont believe is an easy task for teenagers. There is so much worldly pressure and sadly very few true Christians who are upholding and living out the word of God at this age. My daughter and I decided to turn to scripture to see how God picks friends and what His word says about how He wants us to learn to discern between the fool and the wise. For this we turned to Proverbs 6: 16-19 that states:
16 There are six things the Lord hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
1. How does your friend demonstrate the qualities laid out in Proverbs 6: 16-19
2. What does this proverb tell you about yourself? Are you demonstrating that you are a wise friend or a foolish friend to have?
3. What does it say about conformity to your friends?
4. How do you stop yourself from becoming a foolish friend?
5. If you say you are a child of God, yet behave in this manner what do you think non-believers see in you and think about you?
I started talking to my daughter about when I was growing up how I always read the Highlights magazine and specifically a comic strip about Goofus and Gallant. Basically Goofus is the kid always making the unwise decisions. He gets into trouble and is used to illustrate the bad friend. While Gallant is the respectful, thoughtful kid making wise and discerning choices. Although this strip stopped running I believe in 2005, its still relevant to today and I think nicely illustrates Proverbs 6 for us.
I would love to hear from you on this topic on any ideas on how you help your kids make wise decisions in the friendship department.